P.S.A – Support Your Peoples, Dammit!

support your friends
People Love Your Work
until they have to pay for it.

I’ve been self employed for quite a while now. And I wouldn’t have gotten to where I am [still a long way to go] without people believing in me.

When you have an idea, people aren’t investing in your IDEA, they’re investing in YOU. So it’s important that you give all that you can to your craft. And show them you believe in yourself more than anyone else.

But something that makes me wildly, obnoxiously crazed, something I’ve experienced & I see my friends experiencing ALL.THE.TIME. is when YOUR PEOPLE say “Can you do XYZ for my event/apartment/product? I’m on a tight budget, BUT I’ll post on my Facebook and you’ll get GREAT EXPOSURE!”

Honey, last time I checked ConEd doesn’t have an option for exposure in their drop down menu as a form of payment. One of the reasons why WE as a people don’t get ahead, is because WE don’t support each other. It’s so damn lame.

When you order your Tall, NonFat Latte With Caramel Drizzle, do you ask the barista to waive your bill? When you buy Air Jordan 1 Retro OG’s, do you ask for 75% off at the sneaker shop? When you get your hair done, do you ask the stylist for a cut on the arm and you’ll hook her up’ with a shout out on IG? No? So then WHY do you do it to your FRIENDS & FAMILY who are starting their own thing? Oh, because they aren’t established? Or just starting?

Listen, if your newly SE buddy gives you a discount on their newly found passion then lucky you. You’ve just joined their Friends With Benefits club because you helped them on the start up. You get to say I was one of the first! Even if their newly found idea is rough there’s nothing WORSE you can do for a daring bold terrified entrepreneur than to suggest that what they’re selling is not worthy of payment. It’s a self esteem killer. It’s discouraging. And it’s a demotivator when your own friends don’t believe in you enough to say “Here man your product still needs work but I believe in you and here is my investment in YOU.” Give them time, inspire them, and show them you have their back.

Because there will be a day when that $5 service turns into a $500 service and you are going to WISH You were in that FWB club. I promise.

Just a reminder:
1. Oprah was fired by a producer because she was “unfit for television”.
2. JK Rowling was jobless, divorced, penniless, and with a dependent child.
3. Paulo Coelho was admitted to a psychiatric ward 3 times because his family though he was crazy.

Where are all the Facebook Pedestal Pouters? We need your help!

It’s incredible how there was all this outrage from Facebook Pedestal Pouters pissed off at “pink pussy hats” and how protestors decided to show their disgust for the elected officials at the Women’s March. Yet, Those Facebook Pedestal Pouters are not showing the same outrage over how children, Hispanic/Latino Children, and their families are being treated.

You know what, it’s so easy to ignore Facebook. It’s so easy to shrug it off and be like “They’re crazy people” and just silence the app and move on. But I can’t do this anymore. I can’t keep my mouth shut when some of you are just out of control. WHAT.THE.F***.

For the preachers who are posting “Don’t want to get separated from your children? Come here LEGALLY!” You can’t say something more ignorant. Truly, undoubtedly, pathetically ignorant.  Because not ONE of YOUR ANCESTORS came here legally. NOT ONE of your ancestors came here upon conditions that they would treat this country and its’ native inhabitants with respect. And for the Latinos – your half ancestors RAPED your native bloods, and those native bloods FLED HERE under the same pretenses – to seek better, to get away from slaughter, to find light at the end of the literal tunnel. So those HISPANICS that are on their soap box talking about “MAGA, My President, this, My President that” YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED.  Because the administration that sits on that throne that you worship does NOT GIVE ONE DAMN bits ABOUT YOUR BROWN SKINNED ASS! Yeah – you’re brown. No matter how pale you are… YOU ARE BROWN under the laws of privilege.

This is all ridiculous. It’s insane. And probably the most saddening thing to me is watching all elders and peers swear by this system that REPRESENTS YOU. Because that is what you chose when you voted for it; you chose to stand by a system of people that represents your belief system to the world. And if this is who you are – a person that thinks separating a Mother from Her Child because she is seeking refuge from disastrous conditions is acceptable – then you’re as disgusting as the acts committed. And I’m embarrassed for you. Because any Mother looking at those photos, reading the articles should be thinking to themselves “This isn’t right. We have to find another way. THEY – the people who I trusted would DO THE RIGHT THING – has to find another way”.  I don’t know what to do. We donate. We send money. We write to whoever  and sign petitions for whatever. We’re still trying to find ways to help. But at the very least we should feel confident that when in crisis like this, the people that ‘lead’ will do what should be done.

Punishments should fit their crime. We don’t go around chopping people’s hands and heads off anymore because its’ not humane. Perhaps your tongues should be chopped off for spewing hate.

What’s even more unsettling are the comments all you pedestal preachers are writing – “Probably selling organs. Take their kids away forever. Let them starve, that will teach their people” Absurd.

This entire country is built upon slaves, immigrants, and refugees who physically built that door you were able to walk through. That flag you are waving today, that red is for blood, not valor.  And if my memory serves me correctly most of the people standing on the Facebook Pouter Pedestal have no idea what it is to FIGHT for what is right and fair. Just because something is a written law doesn’t mean it’s right.  WHO ARE YOU to say that door should be closed when that is how it was built to begin with?

Now, some are going to argue “ That bill was set in 1997! Those pictures are from 2004!” WHO CARES! This should NOT be happening PERIOD and you should NOT BE SUPPORTING IT!!!!!

No – thousands of people coming into ANY country is not healthy for stability, growth, blah blah blah. But this – what we’re ‘witnessing’ – separating infants, toddlers, children and teenagers from their parents,  putting them in separate facilities BEHIND CAGED WALLS, and sleeping with TIN FOIL BLANKETS is Child Abuse. And you are supporting it. #ThisIsAmerica

August 31 Day Challenge: 3. Favorite Entrepreneur Podcast

Day 3. Favorite Entrepreneur Podcast

Seth Godin

I came across his Stop Stealing Dreams talk on TedX and from there on I knew this man had something for me to hear. It’s one of those talks where you knew what he was saying all along but never found the words to express it yourself let alone put anything into practice.

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August 31 Day Challenge: 2. 3 Short Term Goals

Day 2. 3 Short Term Goals

1. Build our virtual consulting Instagram account @brooklynpencil to 500 people.
2. Perfect a lighting technique I recently learned for my photography.
3. Learn more ways to improve my credit.


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Does it snow in Africa?

May 14, 2013 at 8:27pm · New York ·

“Does it snow in Africa? Does it snow on the Moon? How do you know? Can you name all the continents? At what degrees does water freeze? Can you help me find this other sock, it’s my favorite pair. Do you know which way this piece moves? The directions on this key chain craft doesn’t make sense. If I am bleeding through my eye balls, am I going die? Why does he live outside? Where did the sun come from? What happens when we die? How many seconds are there in 1 billion years? Why do we fart?”

I love being a parent. I really do… But can someone please tell me WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY didn’t anyone mention that I had to be a walking encyclopedia, referee, all games rules knower, explorer, inventor, fake jewelry designer, expert card maker, science project all do-er, goodnight song singer, broken thing fixer, rapper, chef, maid, outfit matcher, nail trimmer, hair inspector, foot smeller, event organizer, appointment setter, confirmer and follow-up-er, plant grower, life philosophy explainer, astronomer, doctor, healer, gossip explainer, sticky note supplier, bully ass kicker, watch woman – day and night, tissue handler, car pooler, sock finder, hair tie finder, cap finder, how things work explainer, why things don’t work explainer, nerf gun expert, battery size expert, lego expert, hot wheels expert, playdoh picker, measuring the size of a kids foot by eye apprentice, measuring the size of a kids clothes by eye without the kid being present master, super hero power knower, monster hugh dolls name knower, food label reader, cleaning supply label reader, bad smell sniffer and culprit locator…..

I think I might be forgetting a few things….

Sheesh I could have at least taken a class or two if someone would have kindly given me a heads up!!!